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It was a fun time, but it's not so much fun being single. If you asked a girl what show was a super supporter for the single lady, Sex and the City would undoubtedly come to mind, and I love Carrie and the gang (I'm a Charlotte) just as much as any 24-year-old. But, in the end, three of them get married and an entire movie is devoted to two marriages and the dissolution of a long-term relationship. It became less and less okay for any of these strong, independent NYC characters to be single, and as we grow older the pressure becomes more palpable. Luckily, my two older siblings aren't married, so I'm not even on my parent's radar. Others, not so lucky. To all of you who are getting the third degree or the poor, unfortunate souls (Little Mermaid) looks from your loved ones, pull a Samantha and tell them to suck it. I will.

'Tis the season

Wedding fever is sweeping my beloveds! And the only prescription? Crafting... of course. I have been a busy bee! Behold...

Bridal Shower invites...

And something for the girl of the hour...

So much fun to be able to help out the loved ones.

Meeting the Family

This is the ever so dreaded event that I avoid when in a relationship. I had a bad experience in my younger years in which my boyfriend announced at the first meeting of my grandparents that his family is part of an elusive mafia crime family, and therefore under witness protection. I've been haunted by it ever since and therefore put off 'meeting the family' until I absolutely have to.
Recent circumstances made the meeting of BOTH families inevitable. Although there was no lack of trying to put it off on my end. My mom gradually convinced me over the last few weeks to have him come to Easter dinner. After much thought, I realized it would probably be a good idea to get it over with before I bring him as my date to my brothers wedding in June. So I gave in.
After prepping Drummer Boy (that name is awful, I really should think of something else) for what he was about to walk into, the day seemed to go rather swimmingly. The biggest surprise was how chatty my younger sister was with him! She’s quite the introvert and hardly socializes at these sorts of gatherings. But they were chatting away! For Grandpa, Im pretty sure it was love at first sight when he got handed a bottle of Johnny Walker Black. He loves a good drinking partner. I was most worried about dad, but he surprisingly was the most easy going of everyone! So to sum it up, SUCCESS!
Now, this weekend, on to part deux. HIS family is coming out to visit. And I have a full day with them at Disneyland. Im not really nervous. I mean, were going to be at the happiest place on earth after all. Wish me luck! I’ll report back!

n other relationship news, you may have heard there was a Royal Wedding today….

Photograph, people.com

Sex and the City

An homage to our namesake.

For all the ladies out there, E! (the home of such horribles as the Kardashians and their numerous spin-offs) has begun showing Sex and the City. I had a significant break from the show since it was in syndication on TBS, but I just switched it on and it was the infamous "Post-It" episode. For those of you who are drawing a blank, this is the episode after Burger breaks up with Carrie on a Post-It note and writes, "I'm sorry. I can't. Don't hate me". While I can't say that I have ever contemplated a break-up via stationary, I can say that I have wanted to say those exact same words. Because sometimes you just can't give them what they want or need and you never want them to hate you. It just happens sometimes, and you have to admit it to yourself.

On a lighter NOTE, here's Carrie's amazing tirade to his friends:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhjCh6iZ1lI&feature=related

Carl Kirk

I just got hit on by someone who works at Carl's Jr. That cannot be a good sign. I got some In 'n' Out on my way home from work. T'was delicious as always! But the inevitable happened... I spilled spread all over my pants and needed to wipe them off PDQ, to avoid the stain that was sure to occur. I made a decision; one that will haunt me indefinitely. I pulled in to the CJ's parking lot (my first mistake was thinking you could get cleaner by going in a Carl's Jr). I walked into the bathroom, but before I got there I felt really guilty because I was going to use their restroom without buying anything. So I made my like 8th mistake of this story. I ordered a shake, to ease my conscience. And then... the 19th inevitable thing happened...

The guy, named "KIRK" (via his name tag), hit on my stained ass.

Winter Wonderland

Well I think most will agree with me that the holidays are so much sweeter when you have a special someone to share it with.  Im still seeing drummer boy and I have to say, things are going quite well.  Sometimes I even feel as if Im living through scenes of some of my favorite movies.  It quite nice.

photo courtesy of LIFE magazine

I've always felt that when you start dating someone and in some relationships, one person is always more 'into it' than the other.  One always feels a little bit (or a lot) stronger about the relationship.  This is totally true by the way, I can present several cases of friends and my own relationships that will attest to this.  Its been a while since I've been in a long term relationship but I would assume that these feelings level off at some point so that both people meet in the 'middle.'  I would hope so.  When i first started seeing drummer boy, I felt like we were on the same level and was stoked!  Gradually I started to feel like his interest was peaking a bit more than mine.  Which is great!  I mean come on, it's pretty nice to have the upper hand!  However, Im realizing this is a pretty amazing guy and I want us to be on the same level.  Im getting there, slowly letting go of some of my hangups.  But will we ever be on the same page?  I have to say, I think he might have sealed the deal for me with this KILLER mix tape he made me as part of my Christmas gift.  I could tell he put so much thought into it and it put a huge smile on my face.  I don't know how else to explain it, but something definitely changed for me in the last 24 hours.
So I guess you could say we're slowly meeting each other at that level.  As always, time will tell.

My next dilemma is how to handle the 'we met on a dating site' issue.  I mean, at my age people aren't necessarily having the 'will you be my girlfriend' conversation.  I think its more something that is just kind of assumed after a certain amount of time.  But i know talking to several of my girlfriends, we all feel some sort of conversation or agreement on exclusivity should be had.  I think this usually happens around the 2-3 month point, depending on how much time you have been spending together.  We women start to wonder if our man is talking to other girls, and one of the silliest but quite legit questions; How do I refer to him?  Is he my man, man friend, lover, guy Im dating, friend, or is he my boyfriend?  Hilarious, I know!  But any girl out there reading this will agree its a question that will run through our mind until its clarified.  Online dating makes this even more complicated.  Because the whole time you are dating, you both know that the both of your are on a dating site which is a Starbucks of single men and women.  You have access to all these people online 24-7.  You can be as picky as you want because there are so many choices.  Tall, grandé, extra sugar, dark, decaf, extra shot, bold brew, no whip.  The possibilities are endless!  Therefore I feel that especially when its a case where you met online; it needs to be established that neither of you are using the service anymore.  I realize this doesn't mean that either person isn't out at a bar chatting it up with some stranger.  But it certainly narrows the playing field.  In my case, Im not pushing for this conversation any time soon.  But I feel like it may be soon approaching.

Hope all you lovers out there get your new years kiss!  And a special shout out to one of our readers and a good friend, Stephanie.  Congratulations on your engagement!  Very happy for you both!

MEEEOOWWWW!

There is just something about musicians right?  Why are they always super sexy?  And let me just say its pretty rare to fine a super sexy, super cool, musician that has his life together.  WINNER!
Well I just had date #2 last night with Drummer Boy.  Any guesses?  I know, sometimes i just go with the obvious for these nicknames.  Our first date was pretty nice.  A fellow fan of downtown he suggested Pete's Cafe.  A delight!  To be honest it was a bit tough at first.  He seemed quite nervous and like he hadn't done this in a while.  I wondered if he would be ready to leave after our first round of drinks.  On the contrary, we ended up staying there for almost 3 hours!
The first date goodbye is so awkward.  There is always a hug unless the date goes horribly wrong and you are dashing out the door to escape.  But typically there you both are, saying your goodbye, and wondering if you should go in for the kill, will he?  Palms sweat, butterfly stomach, nervous twitch and THEN!.... it happens, like magic.  I do love magic.  You both lean in at the same time and its perfection... well almost perfection.
Date 2 was even better.  And thats all I'm going to say about that :)