My Experience in Online Dating

My mom always thought the dating sights were a good idea because of the prematching and because you can feel out a person before actually committing to going on a date with them. Basically she thought is was a good choice for someone like me who is very picky.

I've been on Match, eHarmony, and most recently something call okCupid. eHarmony was the first one I shelled out the money for. Let me give you a little tip if you are wanting to sign up for any of the paid membership sights: There are always coupons! Just google coupons, or discount codes for the site you are looking at and you will find some sort of promotional code. No point in paying full price if you don't have to!

I talked to a few people on eHarmony. The problem is, you can't search through profiles. You only get what eHarmony matches for you. Where's the fun in that? Women are known to choose the wrong men! I only went on ONE date during my membership. Of course, actually going out and meeting someone in person was a big step for me. I think its the fear all people have when they meet someone online for the first time: Will he look the same as he does in pictures? Will there be awkward silences? Will he pay?

Well my date went well and we had planned to see each other again. However, business trips come up, and busy work schedules make it hard to connect... blah blah, never saw him again...

Months later, signing up with Match I was excited and feeling optimistic that I might find someone worthwhile. It was actually looking good. I even found a super D list reality star on there! Still nervous to have face to face interaction, I went out with only one guy of the few I was talking to. We actually went on a whopping 2 dates before I realized he's one of those perfect on paper guys but we were just meant to be friends... and still are to this day!

..If you have the money, this is the dating site I would recommend.

Most recently, as in on Sunday, I was bored and decided to give online dating another try. Being that the economy is horrible and I would rather spend my money on shoes, I searched for a free site. Up popped okCupid. This site is kind of cool. There are millions of questions you can answer that help to find you best match. They give you match percentages (70% match, 20% friend, 10% enemy). Yes, they break it up into 3 categories. You're either a match, a friend, or an enemy. As of now, I haven't been lucky. I've talked to a few people. But quite frankly, I think most of the members on there signed up for 'casual encounters.' That's all and good but just not for me. Literally, this guys started chatting with me and based on his profile he looks like a porn director.

If you like to prescreen, online dating might be great for you. But you will have to face the reality that you may actually have to meet these people in person at some point.

I'll keep testing the waters but personally, I'm an old fashioned gal when it comes to meeting people. Bars, concerts, and friends of friends.